Improving your confidence (and self-esteem) can be tricky, especially when you are overloaded with all your responsibilities and day to day problems. Life’s challenges tend to get in the way. There doesn’t seem to be enough time or energy to indulge in a little self-care and personal development. In the process, it feels like your confidence has taken a battering.
If this is how you feel, overwhelmed, unconfident and out of control, don’t despair. There is an answer – and a way forward.
In this blog, you will discover a sure fire way to improve your confidence and self-esteem. Plus you can learn how to solve some of your problems more easily. You see, your confidence will automatically grow when you solve your problems and get insights into how to manage your life better.
Let us show you how. You will get lots of valuable tips on how boost your confidence. But if you are serious about getting on top of your life, then you might like to look at Fiona’s Confidence Programs. Plus there is also other information that can help you on The Confidence Expert’s website www.fionawilson.com.au.
First, let’s take a look at what confidence is. Then you will know what you are aiming for. You need to be clear on what you want. Getting it is easy once we show you how.
What is Confidence?
The Dictionary describes confidence as the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. Other researchers define it as an attitude, a feeling of self-assurance.
Nathaniel Brandon, an author of the “Six Pillars of Self-esteem’, describes confidence as: “Self-esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It is confidence in the efficacy of our mind, in our ability to think. By extension, it is confidence in our ability to learn, make appropriate choices and decisions, and respond effectively to change. It is also the experience that success, achievement, fulfilment – happiness – are right and natural for us.
This is the prime reason why confident people tend to feel capable and achieve greatness in life. They know they can deal with most of what life throws at them. They are happy, prosperous and always seem satisfied. They tend to be creative and enjoy finding solutions.
How to build or increase your self-confidence?
As Eleanor Roosevelt says, “Do one thing every day that scares you.”
There are many books and much research done that back up this quote. You see, confidence is like a muscle. We all have it, but we do need to exercise it – all the time. Otherwise, it will just shrink. This is the best way to boost your self-esteem in this fast-forward world.
How do you do that?
Think of something that takes you out of your comfort zone. Is it that talk you have been meaning to have but put it off? Or that person at the party you want to talk to but….?
Or that job promotion or pay rise you know you deserve, but too scared to ask?
Whatever it is, get a journal or old exercise book and write down what you need to do. Then write down the best way and time to deliver it. The next step is to do it. Take action. Then write down what you did and how that makes you feel. Use your journal acts like your own personal coach. It will motivate you to keep going. It is amazing how good you will feel.
Don’t put it off another day. Why? Because confidence is like a muscle, you need to exercise it every single day. Otherwise, it decreases over time. It shrinks. Each day that passes by, that you don’t do what you need to do, damages you confidence. Confidence does not stay at one steady level, especially if you beat yourself up for not taking on that challenge, and it will eat into what little confidence you might have left.
What if you have very little confidence?
Easy. Start with smaller challenges, like reaching out to an old friend, reading motivational books, quotations, or listening to a confidence-boosting podcast. Plus make sure you use your journal more. Set yourself a task, every day. And with each day you will find you can take on more significant challenges. Soon you will be feeling fabulous and start kicking goals, large and small.
As you know, having more confidence means a happier, more successful and meaningful life. Start using your journal today, so you can boost your self-confidence. And live the life of your dreams.
If you want to transform your life and improve your confidence, then The Confidence Expert – Fiona Wilson is here to help you. Fiona’s Confidence Programs has a variety of short courses. Some are designed to help you deal with the roadblocks in your life. Others guide you to empowering yourself, and getting your dream life. Whatever your desires, the Programs can help you.